Couples

 

Drifting apart happens over time.

Drifting apart often happens over time.

 

Couples are facing issues today that our parents never dreamed of.

Unfortunately, the same technology that was created to make our lives less complicated, often becomes the vehicle that creates separation.
Couples come to see me for reasons ranging from broken trust, and communication, to parenting and household roles.

I remember reading somewhere that on average a couple who goes into couple’s therapy has been in trouble for seven years.
We don’t wait seven years when our engine light turns on to go see a mechanic; then why wait until it is a last resource before seeing a counsellor? My guess is that it is fear; fear of the unknown.

So, here is what to expect in your first couples counselling session… after the paperwork.

I begin the session with a communication exercise.  This will not only teach  the basics of communication, it will also set the base line to  establish how we will be communicating when discussing the issues that originally brought you to counselling.  

Next each of you will take a few minutes to write down the things that you feel are issues in the relationship. 

I will then spend a few minutes taking a little history about your past, your families of origin,  and how you met. 

Then with the remaining time we will begin to look at the issues one at a time. 

You will leave with some homework or a challenge.

It doesn’t sound that scary does it?

Other effective tools that I use while working with couples are: 

The 5 Love Languages

Gary Chapman’s program around The 5 Love Languages has received international recognition and acclamation. I will generally not introduce the “Love Languages” until the couple is feeling stable and ready to work on growth.

Prepare/Enrich

Prepare /Enrich is the leading relationship inventory and skill-building program in use nationally and internationally. It is built on a solid research foundation and significantly improves a couple’s relationship. Prepare /Enrich is custom tailored to a couple’s relationship and provides couple exercises to build their relationship skill.